I could never do something like that.
Oh, I'm not that talented.
You need years of experience to do that job.
No one would ever hire me to do that.
I'm just not good with money.
Some people are just born to succeed.
I'm too old to wear something like that.
I bowed out because there are much more talented people doing the same thing.
Any of these statements sound familiar?
These are only a few of the comments I've heard my clients say over the years. Before I was trained in cognitive behavior theory I tried to work within the limitations my clients would share with me. Now, I work them out of their limited thinking and belief systems.
When you ask a few key questions and shift perspective, you can easily learn to shift your thinking around certain ideas. How? Because our brains are super effective machines that seek to accomplish all it needs to do in the most efficient way.
So if you tell it, "I'm not good with money," it stores that information (instruction) in your unconscious mind and then works to reinforce it daily. These random comments become commands for your brain. Very similar to that line in the Ten Commandments when Yul Brynner as Pharaoh (yes I'm dating myself), says, "So let it be written, so let it be done!"
The first step in making the shift is to change your interpretation of events. When you can recognize the fact that you made it all up in the first place based on the stories you've created or accepted about your past experiences, you can make the shift. But this all sounds easier than done.
Once we equate an emotional charge to that thought process it becomes a bit more challenging. Not because the process is challenging, but because it's hard for us to separate our thoughts from our feelings. Over time, the two become fused forming your belief system. Unraveling the two will give you the necessary clarity to make the shift.
Once the shift is made you can examine how you've created a negative interpretation of previous events. From there you can begin to shift your distorted thought process and ultimately your behavior, which does nothing more than reinforce the original command you gave your brain.
If you look back over your life, I'm positive you can name a few times when you've shifted your thinking when presented with new information. Quick, easy and painless.
Equally, you can probably look at the course of your life and find thought patterns you're still holding on to, even though you've been presented with contrary information. Why are some thoughts easier to change than others?
As I noted earlier, when there's a strong emotional charge around a thought or belief system, it's hard to make the shift. The good news, however, is that it's possible.
Here’s my point in all of this. Thoughts make up and can change your reality. I'm not just talking about the Law of Attraction, but good old fashion science (which I won't go into here). It's the first step in all things. Ultimately these thoughts inform your actions.
Are you ready to change your life.....let's start by changing your thinking.
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